What's it gonna be darlin', me or ......

[Seiza_Seizure]

Here's a question for all you Kendo lovers. Seeing there is a mix of male a female in this forum, I think the question sits well here. Don't know if it has been asked before or not. Taking a punt!
If it came down to it, and your partner/lover/soul mate asked you to quit the art, what would you do. I would be torn between the two but would live with my decision.

KENDO BABY! C ya!

[Cool Cat]

I think everyone needs to respect the other person for who they are. They shouldn't have to ask them to change just because they may want to spend more time with them or for other reasons. I would say that down the track a hobbie will help your relationships last longer if anything.

Unless what you are doing is dangerous for your health like some extreme sports then I don't think anyone should quit what they love. If you quit you would also become a different person within so maybe your parter, lover or soul mate should think about this first.

If it's the smell of the kote then make sure you air them well.... Outside....

[nebosuke]

They would have to go. Not because I necessarily love kendo more than the other person, but because the other person obviously doesn't love me as who I am and thinks they need to change me.

[Kan]

Kendo and I have been dating for about 4 years now. I see her about three times a week for a few hours a day, she even lets me skip a few every once and a while for something important. Kendo is very understanding and lets me have a life outside of practice. But if someone were to come a long and try to make me leave something that I have put 4 years of time a devotion to that person obviously does not know how important it is to me. Or how it is a big part of my life now. Kendo is not only a hobby, it involves other people that you have spent time whacking with sticks. Theres a special bond that two people share after they hit each other with shinai. To ask me to leave would be like asking me to stop seeing half of my good friends. So it would have to be a very very very good reason. And I doubt there are any very very very good reasons for me to quit kendo.

[samurai999]

So for the sake of extreme thinking, what if your g/f was her?

http://www.i-club.com/forums/showthread.php?t=109062&page=6

i was focusing on sayuki matsumoto, but the mazda girl looks hot too.

Tim

[Newbie]

Well, you should know my thoughts on this from other threads. But definitely the principal of someone wanting me to give up a big part of my life, something I enjoy doing so much, would irk me and put up big red flags. It just wouldn't happen. My last relationship the guy I was with didn't want me to start kendo in the first place. Bugger that - it's changed my life! (and for the better). Anyway, his excuse was time and this was when I was only training one night a week and all he ever did was sit in front of his computer and never want to go anywhere so screw him.

As for it being far enough to want someone to stop if they're doing something dangerous though, I have to say if they were doing it before you started seeing each other then tough. Whether it's smoking, abseiling or eating KFC with a history of bowel cancer in the family. You can't live someone else's life for them. If they took up these things after you started seeing them, that's different.

[ScottUK]

Martial arts = 22 years

The Mrs = 16 years

I don't think she'd ask for fear of the answer... :D

[lucy]

They would have to go. Not because I necessarily love kendo more than the other person, but because the other person obviously doesn't love me as who I am and thinks they need to change me.

I totally agree with you, even though I only just started kendo and iaido three months ago... :) But I'm single anyways.

[kurisu]

My Sensei says he's seen more good kendoka leave because of significant others. I'm glad that I have a wife who appreciates that I do kendo.

[akumalkenshi]

my wife actually sends me away to kendo.

she knows i get crancky if i skipp class.

otherwise i would be wearing a t.shirts that said " my wife told me that she'll leave me if i did kendo, well i'm sure gonna miss her!":D

[kartoffelngeist]

So for the sake of extreme thinking, what if your g/f was her?

http://www.i-club.com/forums/showthread.php?t=109062&page=6

i was focusing on sayuki matsumoto, but the mazda girl looks hot too.

Tim

that would make the decision a lot harder...

seriously though, it would probably depend on the reason behind it. there would be a difference between asking me to stop cos she doesn't like it, and asking for a better reason...

[Lone Kitten]

My Sensei says he's seen more good kendoka leave because of significant others. I'm glad that I have a wife who appreciates that I do kendo.

see, this is why i'm glad i've got a bloke who does kendo - still... that's a hard question... don't think i can (or should!) answer it!

[Dr. Hellsing]

So for the sake of extreme thinking, what if your g/f was her?

http://www.i-club.com/forums/showthread.php?t=109062&page=6

i was focusing on sayuki matsumoto, but the mazda girl looks hot too.

Tim

if she's shalow, i'd go for kendo, but if she has a good reason, i'd give it up. but it has to be like...if i don't quit then she'll die or something.

[Paburo]

if kendo was something nocive like heavy drinking or smoking, then the question would be somewhat reasonable.... but quitting a physical and mental activity that's meant to keep you sane and healthy... just because your lady is cranky or jealous or whimsical or impulsive.... c'mon.... baby, you know the way to the door... lol :D

[Anjin-san]

baby, you know the way to the door...

Spoken like a true prodigy. Kendo wins hands down.

Of course the real answer to this question is 'my partner/lover/soul mate does kendo'

[Newbie]

if kendo was something nocive like heavy drinking or smoking, then the question would be somewhat reasonable....

Why? I'm saying if you already do it before you meet up. Asking a smoker who was a smoker before you started seeing each other to stop smoking because of their health is like turning around to someone who has a car licence and asking them not to drive anymore because so many people get killed in car accidents. Base jumping can be fatal but if it's a physical and mental activity that your partner enjoys before you were together, then what right does that give you to tell them to quit?

[Paburo]

Why? I'm saying if you already do it before you meet up. Asking a smoker who was a smoker before you started seeing each other to stop smoking because of their health is like turning around to someone who has a car licence and asking them not to drive anymore because so many people get killed in car accidents. Base jumping can be fatal but if it's a physical and mental activity that your partner enjoys before you were together, then what right does that give you to tell them to quit?

dear newbie, your comparisons are sort of non-sensical. you can't compare accidents (driving or sports) with a self-induced lung cancer for you and the people around you.

granted... shit happens, and accidents do happen. even in kendo, ppl have died. but smoking, like heavy drinking isn't an accident. it's something eligible. so yeah, if i had a partner and she smoked too much, or if i had a wife who smoked way too much (even worse, in front of our children) i might tell her to quit or hit the door. now, i wouldn't do the same if my gf or wife practiced kendo. that's doing no harm to me or my family whatsoever. heck, someday i might even encourage my future kids to try kendo or sports. but i'll never encourage them to smoke.

i hope you get the general idea... :bandit:

[mingshi]

Should I suggest that it would be harder for a kendoka to quit smoking than to quit kendo...? Assuming that half of the kendo population in the world smokes ---

According to AJKF statistics, this year there are 1,429,718 dan-grade holders in Japan, 401,121 of them are female (about 28%).

[ne0r]

Hmm... for me it would mean a hard decision.

As others said, it depends on the reason. If for example I'd practise obsessively five times a week and even more in the rest of my time and my life would be influenced too much by kendo, it could be a reason. Like having 5 times a week time for kendo but only once in two weeks for her. Or something similar.

But in general I would say - kendo yes, girlfriend no.
That's because a hobby you love THAT much is like a very good friendship - it may last forever or at least very, very long (I think, didn't experience it myself, though). Love usually ends within a few years.

[Paburo]

Should I suggest that it would be harder for a kendoka to quit smoking than to quit kendo...? Assuming that half of the kendo population in the world smokes ---
do you have a serious study and statistics to support all that, or are you just 'assuming'...?

[Maro]

It would never be an issue in a developed relationship.

[KhawMengLee]

It'd be a quick seeya later and off to the pub. Look, anyone trying to rule your life like that is not gonna be worth it in the long run. It's like when an ex started to write out a weekly schedule for me...that was it...I like you a lot lady but I got my free will to think about here.

But usually its more a case of:

If you promise to not bug me about kendo, I promise to not talk about kendo over dinner.

[kensenbatusaii]

It'd be a quick seeya later and off to the pub. Look, anyone trying to rule your life like that is not gonna be worth it in the long run. It's like when an ex started to write out a weekly schedule for me...that was it...I like you a lot lady but I got my free will to think about here.

But usually its more a case of:

If you promise to not bug me about kendo, I promise to not talk about kendo over dinner.

hentai oh hentai

why do you keep

on making bad referrence to

your ex and once girlfriend

in such a bad and cruel description

would you blame her at all?

when all she saw in you

was the comfort of your money

other than that you are not such a pleasant face

at all

or a romantic character for that matter

[Alison2805]

You all rock!!! I agree with you all.

If someone wants to make you quit a hobby/lifestyle you love - that you were doing before they met you - then you have every right to say "Welcome to Dumpsville, population, YOU!!"

I went out with a guy at one stage who loved computer games....like LOVED computer games. That was ok, except that he hid that from me for a couple of months. Then he started playing games til 12am every night. It was very annoying. Instead of cuddling him, I fell asleep alone to the sounds of "Fire in the hole!! BOOM!! Ackackackack!! Roger roger!!" Needless to say, I walked after a while. If Id known about it beforehand, then my right to winge would have been forfeit.

[KhawMengLee]

hentai oh hentai

why do you keep

on making bad referrence to

your ex and once girlfriend

in such a bad and cruel description

would you blame her at all?

when all she saw in you

was the comfort of your money

other than that you are not such a pleasant face

at all

or a romantic character for that matter

For all your baiting and bluster
you still are full of shit.
A coward who hides, like a roach
Within a filth cacked pit.

If you are half the man you're supposed to be
Don't talk this crap with me.
Bitter words and cheap once overs
A loser behind the key

Cross the ocean with your team
Please now, put on your bogu
And We'll settle this nice and proper
Over a nice Ippon Shobu.


Talk is cheap mate.

[KhawMengLee]

You all rock!!! I agree with you all.

If someone wants to make you quit a hobby/lifestyle you love - that you were doing before they met you - then you have every right to say "Welcome to Dumpsville, population, YOU!!"

I went out with a guy at one stage who loved computer games....like LOVED computer games. That was ok, except that he hid that from me for a couple of months. Then he started playing games til 12am every night. It was very annoying. Instead of cuddling him, I fell asleep alone to the sounds of "Fire in the hole!! BOOM!! Ackackackack!! Roger roger!!" Needless to say, I walked after a while. If Id known about it beforehand, then my right to winge would have been forfeit.

Ah, the counter strike years...how we miss ye...

[kensenbatusaii]

once a bitter and old fag relate

on this forum where he always masturbate

an anecdote of a tea master and a samurais debate

where on that fatal day the tea master went

the samurai saw his foolishness then he bent

for it is always golden a rule in all warriors way

that if such enemy is great then you must turn away

and save your precious life and honor before its late

but since your loose tongue hardened by undiscipline

is all thats brave in you a match is asked

aye sir fatty i shall not hold back

though you must realize that this is not a play figth

where your friends always let you win your right

but i am not so a true one thee shall have

though sometimes i wonder

if you can get past the qualifier

into the quarter or even your first shobu

because you will be wearing that bogu

that daddy gave you on your make believe birthday budo

[kensenbatusaii]

once a bitter and old fag relate

on this forum where he always masturbate

an anecdote of a tea master and a samurais debate

where on that fatal day the tea master went

the samurai saw his foolishness then he bent

for it is always golden a rule in all warriors way

that if such enemy is great then you must turn away

and save your precious life and honor before its late

but since your loose tongue hardened by undiscipline

is all thats brave in you a match is asked

aye sir fatty i shall not hold back

[Awooga Guy]

Roses are red;
Violets are blue;
Sugar is sweet;
Kensen's mum was a b*tch for having him


That is all

[KhawMengLee]

Roses are red;
Violets are blue;
Sugar is sweet;
Kensen's mum was a b*tch for having him


That is all

Amen to that dude.

[bullet08]

hmm.. i was always told to thank my wife that she even let me keep the bogu in the house.. lol

pete

[Awooga Guy]

Shameless plug for the Thunderdome thread: http://www.kendo-world.com/forum/showthread.php?p=187277#post187277

Hope you can all make it :)



That is all.

[Frame]

Spoken like a true prodigy. Kendo wins hands down.

Of course the real answer to this question is 'my partner/lover/soul mate does kendo'

oooooooooo someone i know? or is it me? Oh you've got me all excited now, 2 pints will probably get you talking

[Newbie]

Hey Meng, when are you stopping by again to grace us with your not such a pleasant face that can make Lawrence Sensei burst out laughing when you're in another country? (Melbourne Cup, was it? You'd better swing past here whilst you're in the country). And if all your ex saw in you was money well... kendo, money. You fit two of my criterea.

Isn't it funny? We know Meng's grades, etc. We know most peoples. Everyone'd be happy to proudly state there's but mister bigmouth is too afraid to admit he's never even picked up a shinai or bokuto.

Oh no! I just realised! It's Tuesday - the day that Lord High in Heaven the Greatest of All Senseis Kensen told me I must train, though I train six other days a week!!!

Great. Have to commit sepukku now. And all I have is a lousey paring knife to do it with. Wonder if the cat will act as my second as my housemate can't cos some drunken son of bitch hit her whilst she was stationary at the lights on the way to take her daughter to ballet, wrote off the car and now she has severe whiplash. So I came home and cooked dinner but apparently according to Lord High in Heaven the Greatest of All Senseis Kensen these things are not as important as training seven days a week instead of six.

You gonna write me some dumbass poem now, Kensen?

[ScottUK]

A haiku about seppuku with a spoon would be cool...

[Newbie]

Only cold steel
Can salvage this dishonour
Alas, spoon is blunt.

[Willow]

Only cold steel
Can salvage this dishonour
Alas, spoon is blunt.

The spoon in my hand
I cannot contemplate death
There's too much good food

[Sam(urai)_Oram]

My room mate is injured
the house is a mess
this cold dark steel
into warm dark flesh

the spoon will not pierce
a sigh I release
for the reasons I live
out weigh those of peace

Kensen you fool
to train is a way
but I also have a life
outside my MA

[Paburo]

suicide i attempt but
plastic spoon breaks
seppuku tomolow

[Awooga Guy]

suicide i attempt but
plastic spoon breaks
seppuku tomolow

Excellent :D

Hey Kids, Having trouble getting food out of curved bowls?
Then try spoons! From the makers of Knives.
And forks!


Where is that no good spoon case anyway? The thunderdome thread is quiet without Awooga Guy's opponent...



That is all.

[KhawMengLee]

Hey Meng, when are you stopping by again to grace us with your not such a pleasant face that can make Lawrence Sensei burst out laughing when you're in another country? (Melbourne Cup, was it? You'd better swing past here whilst you're in the country). And if all your ex saw in you was money well... kendo, money. You fit two of my criterea.

Isn't it funny? We know Meng's grades, etc. We know most peoples. Everyone'd be happy to proudly state there's but mister bigmouth is too afraid to admit he's never even picked up a shinai or bokuto.

Oh no! I just realised! It's Tuesday - the day that Lord High in Heaven the Greatest of All Senseis Kensen told me I must train, though I train six other days a week!!!

Great. Have to commit sepukku now. And all I have is a lousey paring knife to do it with. Wonder if the cat will act as my second as my housemate can't cos some drunken son of bitch hit her whilst she was stationary at the lights on the way to take her daughter to ballet, wrote off the car and now she has severe whiplash. So I came home and cooked dinner but apparently according to Lord High in Heaven the Greatest of All Senseis Kensen these things are not as important as training seven days a week instead of six.

You gonna write me some dumbass poem now, Kensen?

Thanks lady!

Its great to be loved! and being hentai is a bonus too!!

Hmmmmmmnnnnn...

He said to Robin!
The Sherrif of Nottingham
Heart out with a spoon!

[ScottUK]

Why a spoon, cousin? :)

[Andoru]

They would have to go. Not because I necessarily love kendo more than the other person, but because the other person obviously doesn't love me as who I am and thinks they need to change me.

/nod

My ex actually asked me once...and when she realised that the answer that she'd expected wasn't forthcoming she changed tack and said that it's a hypothetical question. :tired:

[Sam(urai)_Oram]

Girlfriend every time... I can't afford to loose another!!! :down: :nervous:

[Stimpson J. Cat]

I've always been fond of this version

Roses are red
Violets are blue
Get the f**k away from me.


The sword has to be more than a simple weapon... it has to be an answer to life's questions.
Do you know who said that, Paburo?

[Paburo]

Do you know who said that, Paburo?

ummm... some post-sengoku rônin dude named... miyamoto musashi :D

[Seiza_Seizure]

Being passionate gives me strength. I'm lucky to have two Passions at the moment. My Partner and My Kendo. No need to choose, coz they are both healthy for me.

[Kitsune]

If it came down to it, and your partner/lover/soul mate asked you to quit the art, what would you do. I would be torn between the two but would live with my decision.

Ok... This is an easy question, I would tell him no, cos it's part of my life and he choose me for who I am and that means kendo too.

[Andoru]

Ok... This is an easy question, I would tell him no, cos it's part of my life and he choose me for who I am and that means kendo too.

Yeah stick it to him! You go girl!!:cool:

[stephanie dee]

Boyfriend or Kendo? I'd honestly have to say Kendo. I would never stop a boyfriend from doing anything, even if I wasnt too happy about it. Who am I to ask him to change? Therefore, he cannot ask me to change.

Instead I would try to get him interested in it, or perhaps something similar so that he understood my passion for it. And if he was just having none of it and wanted me to stop, i'd then tell him to ram it.



Why a spoon, cousin? :)

Because it's DULL, you twit! It'll hurt more... :cheerful:

[Kirinhale]

Hmm, i don't know, i'd say kendo, unless i really love the guy and he has a valid reason. Which is most likely to never happen! :silly:

And i don't know about only dating kendoka, it sure does put a limit...:p

[CHANG SI]

how about kendo with boyfriend??

[Paikea]

Hey Kids, Having trouble getting food out of curved bowls?
Then try spoons! From the makers of Knives.
And forks!
My God, man, are you insane? Have you no idea the damage a spoon can do (http://www.rathergood.com/spoonguard/)?

[Kenzan]

Unlike a spoon,
We like the moon.

[ScottUK]

Perry Hunter. The wheel's still turning but the hamster's dead...

[runsyi]

The spoon in my hand
I cannot contemplate death
There's too much good food

Good one, Willow.

As to the original question... it would depend on the guy. I'm not ashamed to admit that if the guy was drop-it-like-it's-hot gorgeous I'd probably drop Kendo for a while. At least until I got tired of all the hot sex.

[Ignatz]

My God, man, are you insane? Have you no idea the damage a spoon can do (http://www.rathergood.com/spoonguard/)?
This and the new avatar convinces me that there is something seriously wrong with you Perry.
And that's why we like you.

[Newbie]

Hey, you should listen/watch the "My Cat's Got Knees" song.

However, after SMSing the lyrics to a friend, I feel I must add the disclaimer that apparently, cat's don't have "roughly ten toes" but eight toes and eighteen digits (that'll serve me right for sending that to a friend).

[Paikea]

Perry Hunter. The wheel's still turning but the hamster's dead...But the tumbling action of the deceased rodent is still kind of funny, isn't it?