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ne0r

20th March 2007, 06:50 AM

Kenzan

20th March 2007, 07:04 AM

Whenever I feel like I don't want to go to practice and I start rationalizing, what helps me is to go into "Robot mode": I just let my mind and problems go into the ether and drive myself to practice on autopilot. when I get to practice, and by the end of the warm up, it's too late for me to leave, and I'm always glad that I came.
For me, Kendo is the music that chases my blues away.
:)

pgsmith

20th March 2007, 07:26 AM

I wanted to ask you: Is this usual? If so, how do you deal with this?
Yep, it happens to everyone. What you do is make yourself go anyway. My instructor told me that the nights that you force yourself to go to the dojo are the times when you will learn the most. So, I make myself go so I don't miss out on that extra learning! :)

Dervish

20th March 2007, 08:01 AM

Yep, it happens to everyone. What you do is make yourself go anyway. My instructor told me that the nights that you force yourself to go to the dojo are the times when you will learn the most. So, I make myself go so I don't miss out on that extra learning! :)

That makes sense. Every time I've "forced" myself to go, I've always left the class thinking "wow that was great, I learned so much tonight, I'm glad I didn't stay home!"

kim

20th March 2007, 08:21 AM

Yup that about sums it up for all of us who practice any martial art. The hardest part of the lesson is the turning up.

nodachi

20th March 2007, 09:35 AM

Going to practice usually takes my bad feelings away. Regardless of how depressed or stressed or upset I may be about something, kendo helps me to vent through a physical outlet and the focusing on keiko helps to clear my head. One of the reasons I love kendo is that it is one of the few activities in my life that clears my head and makes everything silent. Then I can feel all peaceful and tackle life's problems one by one because I am calm again.

ne0r

20th March 2007, 02:45 PM

Hey, thanks for the response!
Nice answers here.
@nodachi: Hehe, for me it's hard to not think about (you would say: not existing) problems...Even at keiko.. But I will force myself a little, that's gonna help ^^ ;D

Thanks for the answers!

Kyung

20th March 2007, 09:57 PM

I have a bigger problem. I don't want to go to work, I don't want to find a girlfriend, and sometimes, I even ponder about not going to kumdo lesson.
Your case sounds minor to me.

tgsfg

21st March 2007, 01:05 AM

There was a couple of times when I really didn't want to go to the dojang, but I know I'll have fun and learn a lot if I go. Like everyone here, I force myself to go for those moments. On somedays, I had even decided not to go, but turn up in the dojang later, get scolded for being late, then practice. Only couple of times did I regret going, and those were the days when my sensei was out for business or out sick.

hunnysan

21st March 2007, 03:45 AM

That makes sense. Every time I've "forced" myself to go, I've always left the class thinking "wow that was great, I learned so much tonight, I'm glad I didn't stay home!"

yep, works everytime!

Decado

21st March 2007, 04:17 AM

I had little emotional problems recently (you know - puberty... It's horrible! ) and fell into a little slump. Even without this it became harder for me to go to practise. I wanted to ask you: Is this usual? If so, how do you deal with this?

Can't remember puberty much - it's too far in the past. Remember the acne, being too shy to chat up females - hang on, that last bit's still true!

Nige

21st March 2007, 07:16 AM

At least with buperty we have an excuse for being moody lol

Decado

21st March 2007, 07:29 AM

At least with buperty we have an excuse for being moody lol

That explains your kirioroshi last Thursday! (Hope I've got the right Nige!).

Nige

21st March 2007, 07:35 AM

That explains your kirioroshi last Thursday! (Hope I've got the right Nige!).

well i have about 3 weeks of being a teenager left so i gotta get as much moodiness out before i run out of that excuse lol

A Wadlow

21st March 2007, 06:34 PM

Puberty does suck but you can get through it if your remember these things:

1. She likes you just as a friend, nothing more

2. Your not different, listening to crap music doesn't mean your odd

3. People do understand you, they just can't be arsed

4. One day you will wake up and feel fine

Stop being moopy and go to kendo. Forcing yourself to go is normal, I can't be botherd till im taking my men off at the end, I think I must hate kendo.

kartoffelngeist

21st March 2007, 08:02 PM

Kyung

21st March 2007, 09:12 PM

Every one of those advices are true to me except 2, 3, and 4. Actually, I was constantly nascent about rule #1 too. Something just didn't work out I suppose

A Wadlow

21st March 2007, 10:36 PM

Every one of those advices are true to me except 2, 3, and 4. Actually, I was constantly nascent about rule #1 too. Something just didn't work out I suppose

HAhahahah puberty was always about a girl. Then she turned out to be a slag and sleep with the guy in the year above at a party, one week later your over it and you can have a conversation without slamming a door or having your voice break.

Everyone can relate to this. If you can +rep me!

The great I AM

21st March 2007, 10:44 PM

You will also go through a phase of hating your family and "hiding" porn.

kartoffelngeist

21st March 2007, 10:45 PM

Everyone can relate to this. If you can +rep me!

You can't ask for +rep dude...

It won't come till you stop wanting it...

bit like girls really......;)

Kyung

22nd March 2007, 12:00 AM

HAhahahah puberty was always about a girl. Then she turned out to be a slag and sleep with the guy in the year above at a party, one week later your over it and you can have a conversation without slamming a door or having your voice break.

Everyone can relate to this. If you can +rep me!

I spent a lot of time trying to reason myself out of handful of crushes I had because I knew they were not my type. No girls are my types when I analyze it, but hopefully one might come close in the future.
Unfortunately my access to information like that was very limited since I did not like socializing with the crowd associated with the girl because...well you know how school is divided in to factions. So it took me a long time to get over it. Funny thing is, I never really liked the girls I had crush on. This was profoundly annoying.

A Wadlow

22nd March 2007, 12:50 AM

I spent a lot of time trying to reason myself out of handful of crushes I had because I knew they were not my type. No girls are my types when I analyze it, but hopefully one might come close in the future.
Unfortunately my access to information like that was very limited since I did not like socializing with the crowd associated with the girl because...well you know how school is divided in to factions. So it took me a long time to get over it. Funny thing is, I never really liked the girls I had crush on. This was profoundly annoying.

But they were the "rebel" group at school wern't they. You were her best friend but she got drawn into the group of the cool kids untill one had his way with her at a party. Then you thought "shes changed" and relised you idolized her but didn't actualy like her. She was short and cute looking.

This is where I would use the term Crank. Its part of the healing process.

Frame

22nd March 2007, 12:53 AM

you're still very young, you have many years of cry wanking ahead of you. And then cut yourself or whatever is cool nowadays

kartoffelngeist

22nd March 2007, 12:58 AM

At the tender age of 19, I'm so glad I'm passed all that.

Now I spend my time apologising to girls for things I don't remember doing......;)

A Wadlow

22nd March 2007, 12:59 AM

Actualy you might never grow out of it. Frame and I know someone who is still firmly stuck in puberty and he is a lot older than you. Hence we came up with the term Crank. Its the action of sobbing miserabley while giving it abit of palm abuse.

shred_lord

22nd March 2007, 01:01 AM

you're still very young, you have many years of cry wanking ahead of you. And then cut yourself or whatever is cool nowadays
If I may use a netism

ROLFMAO :D

The great I AM

22nd March 2007, 01:02 AM

shred_lord

22nd March 2007, 01:09 AM

You will also go through a phase of hating your family and "hiding" porn.As opposed to Gibbo who now hangs his out to dry in the garden. :ko:

(Do you get gardens down in London Town?)

Kyung

22nd March 2007, 01:40 AM

But they were the "rebel" group at school wern't they. You were her best friend but she got drawn into the group of the cool kids untill one had his way with her at a party. Then you thought "shes changed" and relised you idolized her but didn't actualy like her. She was short and cute looking.

This is where I would use the term Crank. Its part of the healing process.

Um... I'm not sure if I understand. She was in one of my classes. I never talked to her. She was in the upper hierarchy of social structure in school and I was not part of the hierarchy at all.
I didn't like talking to her. To be honest, I don't know why I even liked her. I think it's because my friend kept on saying she was hot. I was like 'eh', but I guess it got to my head. She was cute, yeah...not short though.
To this day, I have no idea why I like the girls that I do not find attractive. It's a bit what-the-hell moment. Yet I can't stop thinking about her. I know better than to submit to it...I have no damn reason to like her nor do I really want to. So eventually that passed. Feels good to be free really. Then 3 years later, she changed drastically. I guess she went into rebel forces or something. But by that time I was 3 years over her and on to the biggest blunder of my life. But that is another painful story.

pgsmith

22nd March 2007, 01:52 AM

You are both more fucked in the head than I think I am capable of realising.
I agree with Gibbo. You guys need someone to give you a good firm smack upside the head and tell you to grow the hell up and stop whining! :)

The great I AM

22nd March 2007, 01:56 AM

Please note that at no point should puberty involve shaving your balls, or chopped raw liver.

satsumaruma

22nd March 2007, 02:38 AM

Now you tell me.

Bugger.

ne0r

22nd March 2007, 03:03 AM

4. One day you will wake up and feel fine

Stop being moopy and go to kendo. Forcing yourself to go is normal, I can't be botherd till im taking my men off at the end, I think I must hate kendo.

These two passages help me, thanks. I realise that puberty is different for everyone more than I thought... Or perhaps I just think that I am different from most. But I will eventually realise that I am not ^^

Thanks for the tips... And no, it's not (really) about a girl. In fact I have a girlfriend (for about 1.75 years now) which I am happy with like hell! My problems are, that I start seeing the first problems ever, I start worrying and I don't really have the right perspective on the problems I worry about (I see elephants where there are flies. Oh, no flies! Where there is air. ). But it's ok, I keep learning every day and it's starting to be no real problem anymore ^^

Nice thread! ;D

I will force myself to kendo next time... It's a pitty that I didn't manage to the last two times...

Blamps

23rd March 2007, 01:35 AM

I see elephants where there are flies. Oh, no flies!

Stop taking acid then...

Blamps

23rd March 2007, 01:39 AM

Also as others have suggested, cranking may help although you have to learn to do it efficiently otherwise if your family catches you, you might go into an uncontrollable downward crank spiral involving vampire porn and mega buckets

A Wadlow

23rd March 2007, 03:58 AM

Also as others have suggested, cranking may help although you have to learn to do it efficiently otherwise if your family catches you...

Yes there is nothing that says "your going to a councillor" more than coming home to find your son abusing himself while watching a work out video in the lounge with his trousers neatly folded on the side, with his shirt and shoes still on blubbing away like hes just watched Forest Gump alllll over again.

Make sure they are out...

Blamps

23rd March 2007, 04:19 AM

"your going to a councillor"

And then you have to deal with some menopausal woman with dangly earings and an annoyingly neutral tone of voice that would make the Swiss look like war mongers. But if you're going through puberty and gilfs are your thing, that wouldn't be so bad as you could still prop a trouser tent over imagining how experienced she probably is.

Decado

23rd March 2007, 08:20 AM

[QUOTE=A Wadlow;241712]Puberty does suck but you can get through it if your remember these things:

1. She likes you just as a friend, nothing more

QUOTE]

One day a woman who you really fancy will utter those magic words "Can't we just be friends" and then go out with some slob who's a big loser. But I'm not bitter...............:happy:

ne0r

25th March 2007, 02:22 AM

Three words:
WTF?

1. What's cranking? (Ok, I see, it's watching porn and doing...)
2. What are gilfs?
3. What does "going to a councillor" mean?

And could you please realise that I've got a girlfriend! ;D
I'm just moody!

You, guys, are what helps in puberty, or when someone's in a bad mood...

A Wadlow

25th March 2007, 02:56 AM

Three words:
WTF?

1. What's cranking? (Ok, I see, it's watching porn and doing...)
2. What are gilfs?
3. What does "going to a councillor" mean?

1. Crying (Cr-) while having a bit of a self-abuse session (-ank)
2. One day you will understand this one. Its like a Milf but a more refind taste
3. What is said by your parents when the find you doing 1.

ne0r

25th March 2007, 03:19 AM

Ah, I think I got 2. : "g"irls "I"'d "l"ike to "f".... ? Is that right?

lucy

25th March 2007, 03:55 AM

Ah, I think I got 2. : "g"irls "I"'d "l"ike to "f".... ? Is that right?

Not really girls, I think. A bit older. Much older, that is. :rolleyes: :silly:

ne0r

25th March 2007, 04:36 AM

Granmas? Oh my goodness...

A Wadlow

25th March 2007, 06:34 AM

Granmas? Oh my goodness...

Bingo bango! don't forget wilfs. But thats the sort of thing that gets you punched.

ne0r

25th March 2007, 06:37 AM

Wench? (Don't know exactly what that word means... )
Or rather wifes? ;D

(It's fascinating what topics the human nature likes to chat about... ;D )

Ignatz

25th March 2007, 06:42 AM

Now you tell me.

Bugger.
None of that either.

shred_lord

25th March 2007, 06:45 AM

Hey what about KILF's?

A Wadlow

25th March 2007, 06:47 AM

Hey what about KILF's?

In your own free time buddy. But don't forget to wipe your hard drive when you hear sirens.

satsumaruma

26th March 2007, 12:05 AM

None of that either.

Too late, I'm finished.

And wiping up.

shred_lord

26th March 2007, 12:16 AM

In your own free time buddy. But don't forget to wipe your hard drive when you hear sirens.
I'm fairly certain you're thinking of the wrong type of K buddy.

Clue; think what forum we're on.

satsumaruma

26th March 2007, 12:19 AM

The Kaoru world forum?

You have been making sexy time with Kaoru?

You sly old dog you.

shred_lord

26th March 2007, 12:25 AM

The Kaoru world forum?

You have been making sexy time with Kaoru?

You sly old dog you.
Hey dude, it's like not have. I'm married. :silly: :rolleyes:

And like, to a real live woman and not to martial arts or men with 'tashes like some.

A Wadlow

26th March 2007, 12:55 AM

I'm fairly certain you're thinking of the wrong type of K buddy.

Clue; think what forum we're on.

Again, what ever floats your boat. Hopfully your kote don't smell as bad as mine. Hats off to your for trying. Im going to stick to Milfs/Gilfs and Wilfs.

satsumaruma

26th March 2007, 04:45 AM

SILFS? Don't leave out the Welsh.

Kyung

26th March 2007, 10:47 PM

The Kaoru world forum?

You have been making sexy time with Kaoru?

You sly old dog you.

Whot's all this then?

shred_lord

26th March 2007, 11:03 PM

Whot's all this then?Lee's transposing his sexual fantasies onto me.

Blamps

27th March 2007, 12:12 PM

Hey what about KILF's?

If you want to take it to the next level, what about g.gilfs, but then that might involve necrophilia

shred_lord

27th March 2007, 04:44 PM

If you want to take it to the next level, what about g.gilfs, but then that might involve necrophilia
How did you go from Kendoka I'd Like to F... to Great-Grandma's I Like to F...

You sick, sick puppy! :cheeky:

Rob1981

28th March 2007, 10:02 PM

I find 9 times out of 10 when I can't be arsed going to practice that if I make myself go I will have a really good night and come away happy that I dragged myself to the dojo (which has become easier now that I have a car, no lugging bogu on the train and up the massive hill!)