if you had to

[Dr. Hellsing]

...choose between your wife and kendo. say one day, your wife asks you to quit or a divorce, what would you do?

[bullet08]

...choose between your wife and kendo. say one day, your wife asks you to quit or a divorce, what would you do?

stop going to kendo until she calms down, and go back to practice.

pete

[SmellsLikeBogu]

in my current situation, kendo :p
actually a while ago my gf started complaining I went to practice a bit too much and I shouldt take this whole kendo thing to seriously.
I told her she did not want to go there, then left for practice.

If she would make me choose, I would only have to think about it for a split second. not because I would love kendo more then her, but I dont want to spend my life with someone who doesnt allow me to do what I like. Id choose kendo over her only for making me choose. Kendo is something I enjoy and it makes me feel good. plus it keeps me healthy meanwhile. I she cant stand that, shes not the girl for me.

[bobdonny]

ditch the b&*ch.

A lasting relationship should be built on solid ground, with someone who understands you... and your desire for kendo.

[JCM]

ditch the b&*ch.

A lasting relationship should be built on solid ground, with someone who understands you... and your desire for kendo.

Ahh Bobdonny, you are one of the lucky ones :wink:

We can't all drag 'er women to the dojo...

[mugen no junin]

bring her to dojo

[xvikingx]

bring her to dojo

Yeah, hitting her over the head may not convince her, but it will sure make you feel better.

[Makigai]

Kendo 1
Wife 0


Means I have more money to spend on Kendo

[Airin]

If your partner asks you to abandon something you love at most, the problem isn't kendo: the relationship is just broken. Love requires to respect other's life, imho.
So, I would try to understand what doesn't work in our relationship.

[Lone Kitten]

Heh, my fella wouldn't do that! But if he did i'd taiatari his ass so bad...!

[JCM]

Heh, my fella wouldn't do that! But if he did i'd taiatari his ass so bad...!

I am really hoping you are not a bloke :)

[kim]

If my husband said no more kendo, he'd better have a bloody good reason why not. He may have grumbled a bit when I first started going. "Huuuuh leaving me with the kids again!" etc but he sure as hell ain't suicidal. As he really really luuves me he knows that kendo is important to me, as is the pup and his mates to him. He can go out when he wants and so can I. The ring went on our fingers, not through our noses.:devious:

[JCM]

Hey, use the toning up argument.

She used to nag me about kendo, now that I've lost 14lbs and my legs are a lot more toned up she is not complaining anymore, quite the opposite :)

[Neil Gendzwill]

If your partner asks you to abandon something you love at most, the problem isn't kendo: the relationship is just broken. Love requires to respect other's life, imho.
So, I would try to understand what doesn't work in our relationship.+1. This theoretical thing wouldn't happen with my wife. There have been times when I have skipped practices to deal with stuff in our life, but quitting entirely is not happening and she wouldn't ever ask it. I'd never ask her to give up the activities she loves.

[cesarekim]

My wife doesn't like the fact that I disappear for kendo at odd intervals. Having said that, I stay home from work when she's got her gigs. At some point, she may start touring again and I will stay with the kids while she does.

Somebody who gives you an ultimatum about something they know you love is either too sure of their power in the relationship or in real need of reassurance. Kendo is not the problem.

[Nichiren]

my wife would never ask me to quit but i know she wouldent hold back from using my bokken to wack some sense into me if i tried to get a new Iaito :P

but hey ... slowly ... im eroding her defences (and hidding my bokkens) and i will eventualy get my new iai :P

[Masahiro]

...choose between your wife and kendo. say one day, your wife asks you to quit or a divorce, what would you do?

i would secretly have an affair with kendo. and hope that i don't get any hickey.

[Dr. Hellsing]

lets say she asks you theoretically. how would you answer?

[Kenzan]

...choose between your wife and kendo. say one day, your wife asks you to quit or a divorce, what would you do?

During the discussion, just suddenly give her a good slamming until her eyes go crossed, and she'll usually forget what in the hell we were talking about in the first place. Repeat as necessary.
:D

[Kenzan]

Disclaimer for our Canadian Friends,
'Slamming" in California speak means the same as what our English friends call "Rogering."

-And if you are against that, why, you just aren't human.
:D

[Mokujin77]

So, your advice, if my other-half ever issues a kendo-v-relationship ultimatum, is to give her a damn good seeing-to?


Hmmm.......




I'm just off to start an argument about kendo! :D





p.s. If the Mrs wins this "argument", Kenzan, I'll come looking for you!

[Gideon]

I'd set up a quiet time where we could sit down and discuss what the real issues in the relationship are.

[hobbit]

So, your advice, if my other-half ever issues a kendo-v-relationship ultimatum, is to give her a damn good seeing-to?

Hmmm.......


I'm just off to start an argument about kendo! :D



That sounds like the best idea I've heard in a long time . . .:laugh:

[joekc6nlx]

i would secretly have an affair with kendo. and hope that i don't get any hickey.

So, how you gonna explain to the missus that the hickey you got on your neck was actually from a tsuki gone amiss?


I'm glad my divorce came before I started kendo. My ex-wife had too much control - the checkbook, the house, the things in the house, always asking me how much money I'm spending (significantly less than she was), going out when she wanted to go out, but if I was gone from school longer than she thought I should be, it was hell to pay.

So now, no romantic relationships in my life. Not needed, not desired, and certainly not taking the place of kendo.

[Kenzan]

So, how you gonna explain to the missus that the hickey you got on your neck was actually from a tsuki gone amiss?


That's what SHE said!

ZIING!!!!
:D

[ender84567]

That's what SHE said!

ZIING!!!!
:D
haha, i actually use hickies to explain tsuki, at least to my boss, it a much shorter explanation and i don't get the "are you mentally stable" look that way :-P

[Inner_Silence]

in my current situation, kendo :p
actually a while ago my gf started complaining I went to practice a bit too much and I shouldt take this whole kendo thing to seriously.
I told her she did not want to go there, then left for practice.

If she would make me choose, I would only have to think about it for a split second. not because I would love kendo more then her, but I dont want to spend my life with someone who doesnt allow me to do what I like. Id choose kendo over her only for making me choose. Kendo is something I enjoy and it makes me feel good. plus it keeps me healthy meanwhile. I she cant stand that, shes not the girl for me.

thats what i was gonna say...

i remember once a girlfriend made me choose between she or kendo...

the funnyest part is that she was sure that i would choose her.... hahaha you gotta be kidding me!

[bobdonny]

Ahh Bobdonny, you are one of the lucky ones :wink:

We can't all drag 'er women to the dojo...


Can also be a curse my friend....... a curse indeed ;)

[hobbit]

:smoker:
thats what i was gonna say...

i remember once a girlfriend made me choose between she or kendo...

the funnyest part is that she was sure that i would choose her.... hahaha you gotta be kidding me!

I had one once who tried that argument between her & my bike - she was a bit pissed off when I jumped on it & rode off ( at least that's what I heard a long time later - never went back to check. . . ). . .:smoker:

[ratdeau]

If your partner asks you to abandon something you love at most, the problem isn't kendo: the relationship is just broken. Love requires to respect other's life, imho.
So, I would try to understand what doesn't work in our relationship.

+1
During 23 years together, we constructed something I don't want to destroy. If my wife would ask me to stop kendo it would be for a really serious reason. I would trust her and stop. I can alway do kendo again but a broken relation cannot heal so easy.
After 19 years of kendo 5 times a week, it would be hard.

[Anime12478]

Though I'm not in a relationship (hopefully for not much longer), I'll chime in.

If my hypothetical girlfriend/wife were to tell me to stop Kendo, she would have to give me a good reason to quit. It would mostly be a combination of ignorance of Kendo in general and spending a little too much time with it instead of her. Either way, if that situation were to come up, it would be best to figure out what is the matter ASAP.

If I were in that situation, I would definately beat ignorance with information. With the various online sources, my own knowledge and access to a dojo to see it with her own eyes, it wouldn't be something that is hard to do. If it's a problem with spending time with her, then I would try to come up with some sort of agreement for spending more time with her IF it seemed like a problem. Sometimes, it might be a problem of her not liking you do it. If there isn't a plausable reason, then it may be time to look elsewhere. I would be afraid that if it's Kendo today, it might be video games tomorrow and then I would just be a shell of my former self only doing the things she likes. I couldn't live like that as the point of me moving away from my parents is to be independant.

Of course, I might think differently if I were in a relationship, but that is a bridge I will cross when I come to it.

[JCM]

This thread has got me thinking, have you ever been in the opposite situation?, in my experience these two outcomes are the most usual:

1. Who are you to tell her how to spend her time/live my life/bla bla

2. If you don't like it there is the door

Seriously, have you ever tried forbidding your woman from doing something?

We are definitively the weaker ones...