How do i get my wife to practice kendo?

[neanderthal]

She is incharge of the kendo team at her school and looks like it will be that way for 6 years. however the school has a volunteer coach which means she can skip any responsibility.

ive been a player for 2-3 years and love kendo.

her excuses are that she doesnt have the time - ive said we can make special time just for her.

another is that she isnt that interested ( a little lazy really ) - ive said its a great hobby to share and she needs it for work and its a great release of stress.

think of an excuse and she has it, even when joining my new kendo club the sensei wanted her to try but she backed off and ran away.

she has a little interest as she has read my books and ive shown her the basic steps and strikes. but i dont want to go beyond that as im only shodan.

What can i do to get her practicing and even in bogu one day.

we have two little kids but they dont like kendo at all, but we can find baby sitters for them to help my wife practice.

sooooooooooooooooooo????????

:confused:

[Neil Gendzwill]

Nothing. It's her decision, and nagging at her has zero likelihood of changing her mind. At least, if she's anything like my wife.

[shred_lord]

Leave her be dude.

[Kenzan]

Nothing. It's her decision, and nagging at her has zero likelihood of changing her mind. At least, if she's anything like my wife.

Bingo.
+Rep.

[futabachan]

another is that she isnt that interested ( a little lazy really ) - ive said its a great hobby to share and she needs it for work and its a great release of stress.

It isn't about what you say, or what you think she needs. If she isn't interested, she isn't interested. That doesn't make her "lazy" -- it makes her uninterested.

[michaelm]

Don't do it.
"Worlds will collide."
Say goodbye to Independent George (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hp1tohmTx40&NR=1).

[Mr Softee]

I will have an easier time changing lead to gold then making my wife play kendo.

[neanderthal]

im tending to agree.

ive tried and i know that those who want to do it will.

i was just hoping that there may have been a few tricks.

but i shall give up and just enjoy my freedom and practices.

but its such a waste!!!!!

[NoNameKleenex]

My wife isn't interested at all in trying kendo. That's fine with me because we do other things together, so I consider my dojo time to be "my" time.

My wife, on the other hand, says that when I'm in the dojo, it's "her" time because she can actually get things done without me hassling her :)

[Toshiro Mifune]

Marry another woman practing kendo. :ponder: Joking but I agree with Neil and everybody else. In the long run your "encouragement" is just making things worse. Just be happy she is letting you practice kendo. You would have better luck finding a way to make kendo fun and interesting for your kids so they might join. Who knows maybe if they like it and join it might indirectly peak her interest to join.


She is incharge of the kendo team at her school and looks like it will be that way for 6 years. however the school has a volunteer coach which means she can skip any responsibility.

ive been a player for 2-3 years and love kendo.

her excuses are that she doesnt have the time - ive said we can make special time just for her.

another is that she isnt that interested ( a little lazy really ) - ive said its a great hobby to share and she needs it for work and its a great release of stress.

think of an excuse and she has it, even when joining my new kendo club the sensei wanted her to try but she backed off and ran away.

she has a little interest as she has read my books and ive shown her the basic steps and strikes. but i dont want to go beyond that as im only shodan.

What can i do to get her practicing and even in bogu one day.

we have two little kids but they dont like kendo at all, but we can find baby sitters for them to help my wife practice.

sooooooooooooooooooo????????

:confused:

[jjcruiser]

Agreed with the above.

A few years ago I talked my wife into doing something she wasn't that into, trying golf (kendo). I think I sold her on it because of the cute golf outfits and shoes [cool hakama and kendogi]. We got her expensive clubs (bogu) and lessons (dojo fee), and she's never done it since and when I bring up how good it would be to do into our later years, that we can do it together, that she'd be much better at it with practice, etc., she just says she doesn't have time or has another excuse, and all this golf stuff (bogu, gi, shinai) we bought is sitting unused.

My wife is too busy with two kids and a full time job to do Kendo, or practically anything else for that matter. But even if she wasn't, she's never done anything consistently that she didn't really want to do herself. I can't blame her. I don't either.

[Kenzan]

Just be happy she is letting you practice kendo.

(Winces) Man, ain't that the truth.


I remember the old days, when I was young and in my power.....

..The only thing I have power over now is the garbage.

LOL

:D

Just kidding.
I totally wear the pants at my house.
I know this because I have a permission slip from my wife to do so.
:D

[Lady_Kitsune]

Nothing, practicing kendo is a personal decision and no one can be forced to practe it or forced to do anything you don't want to do. so let her be, if she wants she will tell you

[Wesley Myers]

It might just not be her thing.

However, you could find some interest she really has and then YOU volunteer to do that with her. She will know you are doing it for her and will show her appreciation.


On an aside, my wife trained in Kendo for a term. It was hard with 3 little ones (and another on the way now). Her back would ache (she had surgery on her lower back and it is not back to proper strength and the proper posture required really showed her that - and that she was compensating for it with poor posture). On top of this she is very claustrophic and has not been able to put a Men on. She can get mine to maybe within 6 inches of her face and that's that.

I do love her for trying and I really appreciate her effort - even if I am sure I could never do enough to show her that.

... too bad she doesn't read this forum ... :)

[MAZ77]

Yep, yep, and yep.

M'lady would always come and watch (and who likes doing that?) me practice like 3 times a week...and she would talk about it. Seeing how i knew she was shy, i said: "you want to do kendo, huh?". But she said no, blah blah blah. Since i knew she wanted to, it was worth bugging her about it till she did. She is now nidan.

If she didnt show interest, and i bugged her, i would now be single. .... . . hindsight is 20/20...

[Kenzan]

If she didnt show interest, and i bugged her, i would now be single. .... . . hindsight is 20/20...

And if her eyesight were 20/20, you'd still be single...

Mwah!

:D

[MAZ77]

And if her eyesight were 20/20, you'd still be single...

Mwah!

:D

Ohh, <snap>!, eh?

Well done.

[imouto]

She is incharge of the kendo team at her school and looks like it will be that way for 6 years. however the school has a volunteer coach which means she can skip any responsibility.

her excuses are that she doesnt have the time - ive said we can make special time just for her.

another is that she isnt that interested ( a little lazy really ) - ive said its a great hobby to share and she needs it for work and its a great release of stress.

think of an excuse and she has it, even when joining my new kendo club the sensei wanted her to try but she backed off and ran away.

she has a little interest as she has read my books and ive shown her the basic steps and strikes. but i dont want to go beyond that as im only shodan.

Honestly...are you blind?!!?!??!

Can't you see that she has an interest in kendo? She helps out with a team and she has read a few books. And that in itself is a responsibility even if you are unable to see it yourself.

Be grateful for any conversation you are able to share with her about kendo.

This is most likely her way of showing an interest in something you love doing. Be thankful that you are not copping an earful and then some when you arrive home from the dojo smelling somewhat worse than dog food.

[Badtz-Maru]

To be honest, I'm perfectly OK that none of the woman that I have ever been in a relationship with have been interested in Kendo. Kendo is my domain and a place I can go to that is a passion of mine without it being a part of the passion I have in a relationship. Right now, my girl has no interest in starting and that's fine with me. It would be different if she really wanted to give it a shot.

However, I am excited that my little girl is eager to start. She is 5 now and comes with me to the Dojo each time and plays while I practice. I am kind of "immersing" her into the world. It's cute how she does Mokuso and Rei when everyone does and she does warmups too. I told her that she can start when she is in first grade (which is this September).

So the difference there is the willingness. You can't really label someone as lazy when they have no interest in Kendo. Kendo isn't for everyone and not everyone is interested. I am expecting a boy in September, but if he grows up and decides that daddy is nuts and wants no part of Kendo, that's fine. If my girl is the one who ends up being the Kenshi and my girlfriend and boy stay home while we go off to practice... that's good too.

[The great I AM]

Another is that she isnt that interested Dude, the answer is right in front of your face.

Also, thing about it this way. Have you ever had a frustrating practise with someone, and you've hated it, or you've practised with someone and pounded them, and THEY hated it. Now put that other person as your wife, who you have to go home with. Mmmmmm, the perfect recipe for marital harmony. Not. Now imagine a time when you just want to get out of the house, have a little "you" time in the dojo, batter you worries away. There she is, standing in front of you at the dojo too! Hooray!

You have your stuff, I'm sure she has hers. It's always best that way! I'm happy enough when my wife takes enough interest to simply come and watch my shiai.

[xvikingx]

batter you worries away. There she is, standing in front of you
Now hang on a minute. I think you're on to something.

[H.Sandsleth]

What can i do to get her practicing and even in bogu one day.

If you nag her enough, you might get her to do kendo because she wants to please you...but that is not a good reason to do kendo. Find something you both want to do together instead.

[Peter West]

To be honest, I'm perfectly OK that none of the woman that I have ever been in a relationship with have been interested in Kendo. Kendo is my domain and a place I can go to that is a passion of mine without it being a part of the passion I have in a relationship. Right now, my girl has no interest in starting and that's fine with me. It would be different if she really wanted to give it a shot.

However, I am excited that my little girl is eager to start. She is 5 now and comes with me to the Dojo each time and plays while I practice. I am kind of "immersing" her into the world. It's cute how she does Mokuso and Rei when everyone does and she does warmups too. I told her that she can start when she is in first grade (which is this September).

So the difference there is the willingness. You can't really label someone as lazy when they have no interest in Kendo. Kendo isn't for everyone and not everyone is interested. I am expecting a boy in September, but if he grows up and decides that daddy is nuts and wants no part of Kendo, that's fine. If my girl is the one who ends up being the Kenshi and my girlfriend and boy stay home while we go off to practice... that's good too.

This is a really interesting point. My son learned iaido and Jodo from age 5 and kendo from age 10. He worked up to ikkyu in all 3. then at 12 he discovered girls and stopped. Perhaps it was that lazy growth spell that teenage boys go through (damn those hormones), or maybe it was the peer pressure of the layabouts he mixed with. Now however at 22 he is interested, understands and once his studies permit he will probably start again. Although he hasn't trained seriously for 10 years he can go into a dojo, knows exactly what to do, can remember all kendo, jodo and iaido kata that he had learned, and would be ready to pick up where he left off.

What better gift could a parent give to a kid than that opportunity?

One real big lesson I have learned with children is that there will most likely come a time when they wouldn't be seen dead doing what their dad does. It hurts, but you have to give them that space, and no amount of cajolining, bribery or blackmail will help. Give them time, give them space and one day they will realise the value, and go back to it.

And that is someone who loved it and was good at it. how much harder would it be to persuade someone who has no interest?

[Alison2805]

my last boyfriend changed when he played squash and worked out with his mates to fit when I trained. That was fantastic.

[Inner_Silence]

then at 12 he discovered girls and stopped. Perhaps it was that lazy growth spell that teenage boys go through (damn those hormones), or maybe it was the peer pressure of the layabouts he mixed with. Now however at 22 he is interested, understands and once his studies permit he will probably start again. Although he hasn't trained seriously for 10 years he can go into a dojo, knows exactly what to do, can remember all kendo, jodo and iaido kata that he had learned, and would be ready to pick up where he left off.


I have a friend that got his shodan in japan, he trained every day 4 hours (even sundays) for a whole year. he came over and realized that there are girls here and he hasnt came back to the dojo ever since. its very sad. sadly none of us could have convinced him to come back. so it happens.

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back on topic
I think that the practice of whatever is a very personal choice, a person cant be "convinced" to do it, if someone does his practise wont last long. its something that just happens. as kenzan said, you have to thank all the gods that she is ok of you doing kendo. I think we all have to respect someone elses choice, as she respects you and your kendo practice you have to respect her if she doesnt want to. it happened to me the other way around, I remember having a girlfriend that had troubles with me doing kendo, and well Im still here...

[Gideon]

How do i get my wife to practice kendo?

That's a trick question, right?

[Toshiro Mifune]

That's a trick question, right?

Alex,

I'll take how do I get my wife to hit me over the head with a shinai when were not in the dojo or practing kendo? for $800 :ko:

It's the Daily Double!!!

[tad]

I have to admit, it's a pretty good deal having a wife who does kendo. I can avoid the complaints about the smell and practice time doubles as 'together' time...which means that I can do other things for myself that I like. :)

I'm convinced that kendo killed at least one of my previous relationships so I'm pretty content.

[Bomba]

That sounds like a joke;

"Q:How do you get your to practice kendo
A:Tell her that that it entitles her to a voucher for 50% her next pair of shoes"

....although it would not be a joke I would tell, because that sounds sexist.

Anyway, my wife does do kendo and we are happy, although I did break her toe back in February. Its love.

[imouto]

That sounds like a joke;

"Q:How do you get your to practice kendo
A:Tell her that that it entitles her to a voucher for 50% her next pair of shoes"

....although it would not be a joke I would tell, because that sounds sexist.

Anyway, my wife does do kendo and we are happy, although I did break her toe back in February. Its love.

Buying one shoe from a pair of shoes does not entitle you to 50% off.:smiley:

[neanderthal]

Thank you all so much for your replies and advice!

I now feel and think its best to leave her to her own devices. She knows where the dojo is and knows she is more than welcome. Also that id go out of my way to give her the time to relax into practice and learn the basics etc. so really its out of my hands. you cant force anyone to do anything. i just wondered if you could trick them. ha ha ha

hopefully i will invite my kids to the practices as there are a few other little ones running around and from then who knows. but still i have no expectations, just hopes.

From now, as before i will greatly appreciate that i have a wonderful wife and kids who allow me the time to practice and allow me the funds too.

oh its also a pity though as in another thread i wrote about lower back pain - its official my spine at the lower part has shortened where the bones rub together. i will have an mri this week to check in more detail. but i hope with a few pain killers the practices wont be too unbearable.

but if anyone does suffer back pain at all please please go to the drs and get it checked asap. i didnt and was foolish, but now im glad i know whats going on down there.

thanks again.

[still learning]

I have no answer as to how to convince anyone who shows little interest or enthusiasm to take up Kendo.

However - this bit, I find, raises questions.


She is incharge of the kendo team at her school ........
another is that she isnt that interested...


The managers at the school have put someone in charge who knows little and is not developing their own Kendo to pass on any improvements they [she] might make..........

This is irresponsible on the part of whomever delegated this task to her.

Perhaps a word with the school board would be better than badgering the wife....??

[bobdonny]

The managers at the school have put someone in charge who knows little and is not developing their own Kendo to pass on any improvements they [she] might make..........

This is irresponsible on the part of whomever delegated this task to her.




Thats not quite fair. The administration of any sporting activity is so great that it is not unusual to get some what fedup about it.

For instance doctors are the worse to take care of themselves as they deal with medical issues all day and after work the last thing they want to do is go see another doctor!

Same with kendo, I'd say if an individual was dealing with Kendo for a job, it may be difficult to motivate yourself to go and practice in the evening. (im not talking about senior kendoka/sensei who teach - I'm talking junior kendoka that "manage" day to day stuff.

[Dcamplisson]

She is incharge of the kendo team at her school and looks like it will be that way for 6 years. however the school has a volunteer coach which means she can skip any responsibility.

ive been a player for 2-3 years and love kendo.

her excuses are that she doesnt have the time - ive said we can make special time just for her.

another is that she isnt that interested ( a little lazy really ) - ive said its a great hobby to share and she needs it for work and its a great release of stress.

think of an excuse and she has it, even when joining my new kendo club the sensei wanted her to try but she backed off and ran away.

she has a little interest as she has read my books and ive shown her the basic steps and strikes. but i dont want to go beyond that as im only shodan.

What can i do to get her practicing and even in bogu one day.

we have two little kids but they dont like kendo at all, but we can find baby sitters for them to help my wife practice.

sooooooooooooooooooo????????

:confused:
Actually you are lucky, she lets you go... Sometimes wives will stymie outside interests that are coed. Mine got me off badmintron and later regretted it as she felt bad. But do NOT mention "the Kendo babes", that type of psychology won't make her join, she'll just use your shinai for a grill poker.. :)

[Dcamplisson]

Good advice about Backs, due to rationing here in the US they are only allowing one to a customer and they need cared for. On the obverse "bad back" is the easiest thing to fake. No one can actually prove a back does NOt hurt!

[Alison2805]

What in the who now???

[nonamehandle]

somewhat counter to the OP's situation...

my girlfriend has shown interest in kendo and wants to do it...mainly because i am doing it (she had done a month or two many moons ago as well)...but i am not sure how i would feel about it...i do think that practicing together will be fun, but why is it that i am also very hesitant? hmm...interesting...


what are other's experience doing kendo with your wife or SO?

[Kagerou]

The managers at the school have put someone in charge who knows little and is not developing their own Kendo to pass on any improvements they [she] might make..........

This is irresponsible on the part of whomever delegated this task to her.

Perhaps a word with the school board would be better than badgering the wife....??

My guess is she's the manager in the sense that she is there to make sure the school rules are upheld and no one gets killed.

And to put this in another light...How many park league soccer coaches know anything more than the basics of the game?

They're kids and they just want to have fun get their phys ed. credit.

[Paburo]

tell her you are being seduced by a lot of young and sexxy girlie kendoka, and it wouldnt hurt if she would learn kendo and scare them all away with her stick... :D :D and maybe she'll join out of pure jealousy? lol.

i'm not married, but i can't find enough reasons why i would want my wife to do kendo with me (if she has never done it). in fact, i think i'd feel kinda uncomfy and weird about other brutish guys beating my newbie-in-kendo wife in the head with their sticks and bullying her (as dirty as that sounds lol).

now if i had married a kendoka girl in the first place i guess indeed it'd be sad if she quitted kendo somewhere along leaving me alone on the way. how are we going to resolve our marital differences if not on jigeiko?? haha :D :D

[neanderthal]

tell her you are being seduced by a lot of young and sexxy girlie kendoka, and it wouldnt hurt if she would learn kendo and scare them all away with her stick... :D :D and maybe she'll join out of pure jealousy? lol.

i'm not married, but i can't find enough reasons why i would want my wife to do kendo with me (if she has never done it). in fact, i think i'd feel kinda uncomfy and weird about other brutish guys beating my newbie-in-kendo wife in the head with their sticks and bullying her (as dirty as that sounds lol).

now if i had married a kendoka girl in the first place i guess indeed it'd be sad if she quitted kendo somewhere along leaving me alone on the way. how are we going to resolve our marital differences if not on jigeiko?? haha :D :D

:laugh:

totally open and faithful relationship. so if i had any come ons id be telling the wife first and having a good laugh. but it would be an easy way to trick a jealous woman. unfortunately she isnt the jealous type so no trickary there.

:confused:

[neanderthal]

My guess is she's the manager in the sense that she is there to make sure the school rules are upheld and no one gets killed.

And to put this in another light...How many park league soccer coaches know anything more than the basics of the game?

They're kids and they just want to have fun get their phys ed. credit.

:confused2

its the japanese school system which never makes any sense at all. i have a feeling she got put in that position to use me now and again. also its the easiest club activitiy as they also have another coach but who isnt a teacher.

i just have to give it time and then a play around with a shinai outside the house now and then in hope she will want to pick it up in the dojo.

i had to learn with kids first which i have no hang ups about but she may, so who knows. i will just let it go. she also helps me when i have a tricky new waza so she does have an interest or a deep love of me. either way she needs more time in the dojo to be pursuaded by others who arent me.

:ko:

[neanderthal]

Good advice about Backs, due to rationing here in the US they are only allowing one to a customer and they need cared for. On the obverse "bad back" is the easiest thing to fake. No one can actually prove a back does NOt hurt!

Faking is easy i guess but when its for real its a real pain and quite disbilitating. The dr. said either fusion, or new bone or just to put up with it.

anyway the MRI will show in detail how messed up it is. its funny as it hurts just in kendo. but if i take a rest for 5 mins i can get on with it for 10-15 mins.

anyway ive been advised by 1 sensei to take a break and by others to push on through. im for the pushing through as it will build the needed muscle, especially when the dr. said there is no cure.

But my advice to all is get it checked ASAP before it does become a problem which needs an operation. my bets are on more practice and more subari so the specific muscles develop.

kendos too much fun to let a little pain put me off.

:ponder:

[JByrd]

what are other's experience doing kendo with your wife or SO?

My wife started Kendo after I did, all in all I have about 8 years of experience on her. Despite that, she's only one rank below me right now (and she'll probably catch up soon).

I benefitted greatly when she started practice. Not only has she been my best keiko partner, but she has much better movement, and I've copied that as much as I could. I'd like to think she benefitted from the research I had done on training methods.

Over the years we've had a lot of fun traveling to Kendo events together. Sometimes the stress of travel, or of the event itself, can make things difficult. We've had lots of time in cars and airports to talk things over and figure out how to minimize problems that detract from our experience. I've learned to be a bit more even tempered about things. If I had a really great time I won't gush about it because maybe she struggled and I don't want to rub it in. If I struggled I won't complain too much because maybe she had a great time and I don't want to spoil it.

Over time, our interest in Kendo waxes and wanes for all kinds of reasons. We try not to let our own up and down cycles affect the other too much. That is a continuing challenge.

[Gideon]

And to put this in another light...How many park league soccer coaches know anything more than the basics of the game?

So much truth in this statement. + rep. Still, without them (or the school manager perhaps) it wouldn't be possible, so much love for the volunteering/volunteered-ness.

(sorry, licensed soccer coach. it hit a chord)

[Kagerou]

So much truth in this statement. + rep. Still, without them (or the school manager perhaps) it wouldn't be possible, so much love for the volunteering/volunteered-ness.

(sorry, licensed soccer coach. it hit a chord)

I totally agree. These are the people that make it possible for kids to play sports. There just aren't enough qualified people to fill the requirements so we need them.

[neanderthal]

I totally agree. These are the people that make it possible for kids to play sports. There just aren't enough qualified people to fill the requirements so we need them.

:smoker:

so how do i trick her into becoming more qualified or experienced?

:confused:

[Trent]

tell her no sex until she starts training

[imouto]

:smoker:

so how do i trick her into becoming more qualified or experienced?

:confused:
Is there a good deal of sarcasm in this question?

[benwagner1988]

tell her no sex until she starts training

Unfortunately women tend to last longer then men on this one! Gr8 idea though lol

[Zornocology]

tell her she gets to buy an entire new outfit :D

[neanderthal]

its a pity she has everything she wants and needs anyway.

so bribary is out of the question.

unfortunately we are in a position where she could have the top of the range bogu and everything whenever but still no biting of the line.

we have a great relationship so no arguments either.

im really at a loss apart from giving up.

but i know she and her students will gain so much more if i can just get her into the dojo holding a shinai with a sensei instructing her.

i feel peer presure is the best as the more i get her to the dojo the chances are that someone will rope her into it.

especially when they fine out her school position.

i will just play dumb and say i need her help.

thanks again.

[Toshiro Mifune]

I hope you choose to stick to leaving her ot her own devices as your final conclusion. I would hate to see another post looking to date a woman who practices kendo. :ponder:


Thank you all so much for your replies and advice!

I now feel and think its best to leave her to her own devices. She knows where the dojo is and knows she is more than welcome. Also that id go out of my way to give her the time to relax into practice and learn the basics etc. so really its out of my hands. you cant force anyone to do anything. i just wondered if you could trick them. ha ha ha

hopefully i will invite my kids to the practices as there are a few other little ones running around and from then who knows. but still i have no expectations, just hopes.

From now, as before i will greatly appreciate that i have a wonderful wife and kids who allow me the time to practice and allow me the funds too.

oh its also a pity though as in another thread i wrote about lower back pain - its official my spine at the lower part has shortened where the bones rub together. i will have an mri this week to check in more detail. but i hope with a few pain killers the practices wont be too unbearable.

but if anyone does suffer back pain at all please please go to the drs and get it checked asap. i didnt and was foolish, but now im glad i know whats going on down there.

thanks again.

[swyn]

Leave her alone, it's just like a relationship, the more you push her, the more she'll run away from it.

When/If the time comes, she'll join. The motivation has to come from the inside.

Yuko

[Gideon]

Interesting question for you that may help you with your... situation.

Why do you feel it so absolutely necessary that she starts to learn kendo? Why are you pressing so hard for it?

Oh, and word to the foolish... lying to her will only lead to problems, especially when she does decide to start, comes here and finds out that you've been plotting against her. You walk a dangerous path. (at least one would here in the States - perhaps women from other cultures enjoy being manipulated, tricked, and essentially trapped).

[Kenzan]

Interesting question for you that may help you with your... situation.

Why do you feel it so absolutely necessary that she starts to learn kendo? Why are you pressing so hard for it?


Wild guess, but could the wife be perhaps developing some "junk in the trunk?"

[jjcruiser]

but i know she and her students will gain so much more if i can just get her into the dojo holding a shinai with a sensei instructing her.


I've been following this interesting thread since the beginning, and I just realized it doesn't make any sense to me.

Are you saying that your wife trains students in Kendo but doesn't do Kendo? If so, how is that possible? If not, why does her Kendo - or lack thereof - have anything to do with her students?

[Obulco]

I've been following this interesting thread since the beginning, and I just realized it doesn't make any sense to me.

Are you saying that your wife trains students in Kendo but doesn't do Kendo? If so, how is that possible? If not, why does her Kendo - or lack thereof - have anything to do with her students?

The flag of the OP points at Japan. It is possible to know little or nothing about kendo and be in charge of the kendo team as part of your teaching duties. Advanced students or a volunteer of the community will take care of conducting the class. Kind of being in charge of the basketball team over here even if you do not play. The OP will correct me if I am wrong.

[jjcruiser]

The flag of the OP points at Japan. It is possible to know little or nothing about kendo and be in charge of the kendo team as part of your teaching duties. Advanced students or a volunteer of the community will take care of conducting the class. Kind of being in charge of the basketball team over here even if you do not play. The OP will correct me if I am wrong.

Ah. Fascinating. Like when a high school math teacher is also the head coach of the "jai-alai team" even though they don't know anything about it, just so the students can have a club? That makes sense. I guess.

Wow, if that's the case, I'd say you're sunk Neanderthal. If she's got that much exposure to Kendo and hasn't become interested yet, it's a done deal imo.

[un hartim]

(Winces) Man, ain't that the truth.


I remember the old days, when I was young and in my power.....

..The only thing I have power over now is the garbage.

LOL

:D

Just kidding.
I totally wear the pants at my house.
I know this because I have a permission slip from my wife to do so.
:D

+1

remembering those times when I could do whatever I wanted without any explanation....

[Kenzan]

+1

remembering those times when I could do whatever I wanted without any explanation....

Yeah, but in all honestly,
Getting caught Eating a bucket of lucky charms in your underwear with a six pack of beer in a darkened room in front of the TV at 2:00 am while watching soft-porn on cable,

.. just might....

:laugh:

That is why every man must build a shed or have a Garage in back.

I.e.

The Man-Cave.

No girls allowed.
Padlocked from the inside and out.

LOL

:D

[Maku-san]

Yeah, The Man Cave!!! Arrrrhhh, arrrhhh, arrrrr!!!! :jaguar::jaguar::jaguar:

[Kenzan]

Arrrrhhh, arrrhhh, arrrrr!!!! :jaguar::jaguar::jaguar:

You can do THAT in there too.

LOL

:D

[Maku-san]

You can do THAT in there too.

LOL

:D

Gladly! :D

LOL

Mark :beard:

[neanderthal]

I've been following this interesting thread since the beginning, and I just realized it doesn't make any sense to me.

Are you saying that your wife trains students in Kendo but doesn't do Kendo? If so, how is that possible? If not, why does her Kendo - or lack thereof - have anything to do with her students?

her school has made her the boss of kendo at her school but there is a volunteer coach who comes occasionally. being a japanese school means you dont need any expertise in anything you do.

i just hope the chance that she has everyday to mix with the students of the kendo club would help her and the students develop more love for the sport.

if it wasnt so like for the past 3 years id leave her alone, but it looks like she will be in this position for six years and if the local bosses of kendo in the area hear she has no interest in the sport they may get arsey. especially when her husband is there all the time at training.

nothing to do with fitness, although its questionable. but opportunity and chance in life to experience such a fun hobby.

hey getting hit over the head is fun, or have i just taken too many men strikes?

:confused2

[neanderthal]

Yep we should all build our man cave!

store the kendo gear and the beer and porn!

that will teach them not to share our interests!

anyway im leaving her to her own choices.

you can take a horse to water but not make it drink.

im lucky either way. either we practice or i have my time.

but still all your responses have been eye opening and have helped. thank you so much!!!

[yagyuu gal]

Some people get more stubborn against something the more you hassle them... let her be. She may actually want to practice, but doesn't want to 'compete' with the hubby all excited about kendo.

Or, maybe it's just a really personal thing, like religion, in any case, getting on her case will definitely turn her off. I advise keeping out of her kendo circle and not bragging about how hard you are practicing. Trust me, she doesn't want to hear it when she comes home from work.:confused2