Conflict Resolution

[ii_kangae]

Long story short, I have issues with a co-worker. Everything she does drives me crazy...and not the good kind. So, my question is, do any of you feel like because you do kendo you are better able to deal with conflict in the work environment? or are less affraid to voice your opinions in board meetings and the like...?

[JoDuncan]

Long story short, I have issues with a co-worker. Everything she does drives me crazy...and not the good kind.
.....

Sounds to me like someone has a crush. :smoker:

;)

[bravo22]

Intimidate the boardroom with window shattering kiai!

[Kenzan]

Long story short, I have issues with a co-worker. Everything she does drives me crazy...and not the good kind. So, my question is, do any of you feel like because you do kendo you are better able to deal with conflict in the work environment? or are less affraid to voice your opinions in board meetings and the like...?

If it were me, I'd ask myself, what is it about this person's actions that makes me agitated, and then I'd ask myself, what can I learn from it?

Knowing that you can only change your reaction to another person, and can not really change the person's behavior directly has assisted me in dealing with people like that.

Interestingly enough, Kendo has shown me two valuable insights about myself.

1. Everyone has something to add to help me. Even the "Jackasses."
I now look at criticisms as "Ways to help me become better." instead of being defensive.
(Hard to do in a Dog eat Dog world, where any sort of vulnerability can be seen as a weakness.)

2. What is it about myself that allows me to let these things bother me, and why? At the end of the day, it's you that has the problem, not her.

If that doesn't work, just show up in Bogu one day, and Taiatari a few folks.
She'll get the message.

[Zornocology]

sorry kenzan, must spread rep... but i agree with you on that thinking.

I have a similar situation. the fellow who sits immediately accross from me drives me CRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAZZZZZZZZZYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!! but I have to remember that it's me who is being driven crazy, he is just being himself. Even as I type this he is driving me nuts haha.

As far as kendo helping me deal with it? I would say yes but more acutely it is martial arts principles in general. Especially zazen and mushin. And if those don't work, kiai and kiri kaeshi. mua ha ha ha hah a

[sirius1906]

Sounds to me like someone has a crush. :smoker:

;)
Just tsuki her and get it over with. ;)

[Bogu Headache]

Just tsuki her and get it over with. ;)

Its what I was going to say. Come to work in armour, leave in custody.
I deal with knuckleheads every day from early morning onwards (bar work = mass 'tard attack). I've not been doing Kendo very long, but looking forward to wednesday practice has got me through long shifts.

[Maku-san]

Just tsuki her and get it over with. ;)

And not scroto-tsuki, either!!! :eek: She ain't got any. :laugh:

[Maku-san]

Long story short, I have issues with a co-worker. Everything she does drives me crazy...and not the good kind. So, my question is, do any of you feel like because you do kendo you are better able to deal with conflict in the work environment? or are less affraid to voice your opinions in board meetings and the like...?

Had to deal with one like this for six years. I felt like I was in an Iranian hostage situation the whole time. Now that she's gone (she finally "ran out of rope" and "hung herself"), I feel so totally "damaged" by the experience. :ko:

If these stupid "Workplace Violence" edicts were loosened enough for us to just vent our rage at these idiotic morons, we'd all be happy worker bees.

Just my humble opinion, that's all! :smiley:

Mark :beard:

[Charles Lockhar]

I had this one kind of odd co-worker a long time ago, he was this bizarre combination of Bill Lumbergh (the manager from Office Space) and Dwight Schrute (from The Office). It was a really small company, like six guys, and we all wore different "hats" depending on the current phase of projects, so at times I was his manager, at other times he was my manager.

It was just weird. This was my first job out of college, I was working as 40% hardware engineer, 40% software engineer, and 20% production, doing pretty much everything. The guy would get on my case about the weirdest things, commit outright sabotage against things I was doing, and really try to undercut my confidence. He was essentially a technician who was unhappy being the "low man," surrounded by software and electrical engineers, in Seattle, where in most tech companies the geekier the better.

At one point he found out that my fiance was Japanese, and from then until I quit the company he was emailing me twisted Japanese porn and bukakke stuff. Bizarre...

-Charles

[samurai80]

Ummm...that isn't just weird, that would constitute a punch to the face. Seriously.

[sirius1906]

Just tsuki her and get it over with. ;)

And not scroto-tsuki, either!!! :eek: She ain't got any. :laugh:

That was kinda my point. :D

[Kagerou]

you could always go insane and stalk from office to office with an Armalite AR-10 Carbine-gas semiautomatic, bitterly pumping round after round into colleagues and co-workers.

[xvikingx]

Uh.... he works at a school for children dude.

[Kagerou]

I take it you missed the fight club reference there.....

[Alison2805]

It could be worse.......

I had to work with a guy in a remote camp who was awaiting his court date for holding people hostage on a previous job (with a bulldozer I believe) until someone would bring him booze. The cook started shooting at him with a rifle and things degenerated from there.... I made sure I didnt piss him off, he had only just got out of jail for manslaughter a year or two before. God knows why he was allowed to keep working in camps.

Then there was the other guy who would happily tell people when he has accidently "followed-through" after passing wind. The thing is, he would tell you this, and then youd would have to work around him for several more hours before he did anything about it. Perhaps he kept warmer that way, I dunno...

[Paburo]

welcome to the club. we all have an annoying dwight type coworker. mine is a disturbed thirty something woman. she gets on my nerves with all her gossiping, loud voice and perverted comments.

has kendo helped me deal with it? i dont think so. most ppl on your work place might feel kind of intimidated with the guy who does xxx martial art and they usually just leave you alone and dont annoy or mess with you. but this one woman gives a flying f*ck about just about anything. thank dog she is not my boss. my boss is a hottie who treats me very nicely.

i guess kendo indirectly does help you in many ways though, as you relieve all stress at keiko and usually have a lot more patience than your average joe the rest of the day. and beating other ppl with sticks kindof increases your self confidence and overall coolness in some ways, that might come in handy if you ever have to confront or report her i guess... :D

[H.Sandsleth]

I think Alison is the winner here..

I had one constantly stoned/drunk coworker, who was mostly just sleeping at her desk. Unfortunately her desk was in the reception area.. Another one was constantly threatening and bordering on violent, but is on the road of getting fired now I think.

[bravo22]

I was caught with the manager's daughter

[Charles Lockhar]

I think Alison is the winner here..

Yep.

-Charles

[braxtonhicks]

I once had to fire someone from a touring band. I was one of the youngest musical director's they'd ever had at 20 years old, and I had to can a guy that was in his 50's. This guy would fall asleep onstage, during the show, in his chair. He was kinda hefty, and all the sound technicians started calling him "Seven". He looked like the "gluttony" victim from the flick, slumped over on his belly. Anyway, he wasn't playing so hot either, and I was told to make a change.

I did so in the gentlest way I could, but the guy went nuts and tried to commit suicide by jumping off a balcony, but the alcoholic trombone player walked into the situation by accident and grabbed him off the railing, and put him in a full nelson until help arrived.

Another guy who was my roommate started going a little kooky at one point on tour. He started telling the other guys in the band that he owned every note they played because he had bought infinite amounts of stock in the touring company for $0. I dunno. There was one night in the hotel where I just saw a strange look in his eye, and decided he was going to "pop". I told him I was going to find a place to practice, and proceeded to take all my instruments (6) out of the room, because I was afraid he would damage them. I crashed in the lobby. The tour manager called me in the morning, and wanted me to go by the room, because she'd heard something had happened. I went in, and he'd trashed it. He had somehow gotten his hands on like 20 rolls of scotch tape, and taped everything together. It was like a web of scotch tape. The tv was on, but you couldn't see anything but a glow because of the layers of tape on it. He was taken off the tour and put into a "safe place" for a while.

So, moral of the story...watch your ass!

[H.Sandsleth]

:shocked::laugh::laugh:

[Exia00]

oh my. some horror stories here..

I ddon't conflict with that many people. The only people I do conflict with are the ones who believe they're right always, with no proof to back up what they claim. And what I usually do is just ignore them. They think what they want, I ain't gonna go through the trouble of arguing a pointless agruement. Would rather use my breath kiaing; which i kinda do at work when serving customers. --> call out numbers --> serve customers.
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[Inner_Silence]

double post

[Inner_Silence]

do any of you feel like because you do kendo you are better able to deal with conflict in the work environment? ..?

you mean like some horizontal keiko as a solution of a guy/girl conflict??

[Tsunemori]

you mean like some horizontal keiko as a solution of a guy/girl conflict??
I get a lot of taitatari training off-dojo!

[ace]

I get a lot of taitatari training off-dojo!
from daniel maybe

[voidsamurai]

Long story short, I have issues with a co-worker. Everything she does drives me crazy...and not the good kind. So, my question is, do any of you feel like because you do kendo you are better able to deal with conflict in the work environment? or are less affraid to voice your opinions in board meetings and the like...?


She took the center, your kamae collapse, and you don't know how to deal against her seme.

(S.F.M.E)

[Inner_Silence]

from daniel maybe

hahahha !! Lol!

[bravo22]

Why does kendo always bring out the sex jokes? or is it just our perverted selves?

btw, I was promptly fired after getting caught

[Inner_Silence]

Why does kendo always bring out the sex jokes? or is it just our perverted selves?

btw, I was promptly fired after getting caught

becouse the smutty samurai thread died so hormones are being spreaded all over the forum.
besides, as I said in other thread, are there things in life that arent sex related??? hahaha

anyway, here goes the story:

the other day I was at home, I mean at uni home, I live withtwo girls as you all know, it was friday night and I was getting to bed "early" becouse had kendo practice on saturday morning. they invited a couple of people over but about 1 a.m. I was already on bed.
suddenly I woke up about 2 am hearing some girl crying and saying "how could he have done that to me" after getting up and asking who was the drama queeen and why was she crying (her boyfriend dumped her haha!!) and realizing that she wasnt one of "my girls" (noone messes with my girls without talking to me first, besides they are both single!) I went to bed. I actually didnt care much about it becouse the dumped girl (said euphemistically) wasnt of my type anyway.
after a while, I woke up hearing that girl hysterical! I mean she was yelling and al that and I was getting upset becouse Im kind of territorial and noones yells in MY house other than me. and suddenly I heard her yelling "im gonna throw myself from the window!!!" and everyone where "OH NONO!!!" I got up as fast as I could and some guys where holding her from throwing herself!!!

in one hand I thought that its good that they stopped her becouse since I live in a third floor none of us would have accomplished what we wanted, I mean I couldnt have get to sleep becouse of the ambulance and all that, and she would have still be wasting precious oxygen and turning it in to carbon dioxyde for many more years. anyway, shell never be back to my appartment again.

anyway, it might have to be with that I practice kendo, or whatever, but I was the only one there that was keeping it cool, the other people where very nervous to say the less.