Girls with fellas who do kendo

[Lone Kitten]

Just an observation here, but lots of the ladies who do kendo that i know have boyfs that also do kendo.

do any of u have fellas who aren't kendoka? Just interested is all.

[Nochi-no-tsuki]

i am with a guy that does not do kendo. i know he thinks it's a wierd hobby, but he tries to be supportive. he comes to tournaments with me (on his request ) one thing that causes problems with him not being a kendo guy is when i want to go to practice instead of spending time with him. another thing is when he sees bruises on me and he's like "why do you like getting beat up?!" LOL, it's hard for him to understand why i like kendo.

[bullet08]

always told that one shouldn't date someone in same club/dojo/gang.. if they break up, one will have to leave or it will create conflict within the club/dojo/gang..

already married, and my wife doesn't care for kendo

pete

[tango]

i'm already married, too, and i hope my wife never entertains thoughts of doing kendo... because i know how she is...

even for folks dating who don't break up, there could be tension in the dojo.. next thing you know, the class brute beats up your girl in jigeiko -- and he's your best kendo buddy -- so ... well, you see where that all might lead...

of course... it all depends on the girl.

(sorry to hijack the thread!)

[h2o]

next thing you know, the class brute beats up your girl in jigeiko -- and he's your best kendo buddy -- so ... well, you see where that all might lead...

A bit stereotypical? I'd say that if you do kendo, you should be aware that you are in for some rough treatment. And if someone in the dojo is hitting to hard, then it's time to speak with them. I got beaten up quite often during ji-geiko but I don't think my fiance held any grudges to the man in question, and neither did I.

Seems like the thread is going off topic since this was supposed to be a thread about girls doing kendo who don't have a kendo-boyfriend. In our dojo 50% of the girls have no-kendo-boyfriends. Of the other 50% at least one was dragging her boyfriend along and not the other way around.

[Alison2805]

easy solution - date someone from another dojo

Ive just started dating someone who is not a kendoka, he is happy about it, and wants to come and watch. He doesnt have a problem with me being bruised or spending lots of time training If he did he'd be kicked to the curb!

[ace]

hey i havent heard anything about this ali when where you going tells us and you better bring him past the dojo so we can suss him out (hehe)

[Alison2805]

hence why I havent brought him yet... hey this is a very recent development in the World Of Ali... my own family dont know yet!!

Doesnt that make you all feel special? ;]

[ace]

yeah i suppose but still you will havta bring for some freindly jigieko or something.anyway catch ya at training next week.

[Paburo]

do any of u have fellas who aren't kendoka? Just interested is all.

oh you evil kitty... you too want them to carry your (bogu) bags..?

[bobdonny]

Hmmmmmm

My wife just started a few weeks ago.
Years of pent up fustration making contact with my men without remorse

But in a few months i get to hit back

I think it will be a good way to decide where we spend Xmas

[stephanie dee]

Man, I wish that I had a fella who did Kendo, not from my club, but from a different one.

What I tend to find is that when I go on dates or just chatting to blokes in general and they ask me what my hobbies are, and I reply with Martial Arts, they either:

1. Take a step back and try to run away
2. Start making ninja noises and say "so how long have you been doing Karate?"
3. Think that i'm like rock hard, domanieering type lass and start getting all pervy.

*Sigh*. I want a fella that does Martial Arts too, any type! I used to love explaining what Kendo and Iaido was, now it just gets tedious.... A guy that couldn't handle me doing Martial Arts wouldn't even survive the first date with me!

[Rob1981]

heheh I'm single steph!

[Nochi-no-tsuki]

heheh I'm single steph!

i knew this thread would turn into a hookup fest.

[Newbie]

I used to be with a guy who didn't want me to start kendo in the first place 'cos I was doing so much already' (roleplaying once a fortnight and tai chi once a week is apparently spending no time at home, even though when I was at home he'd just work in his office).

There are at least two couples I can think of at my dojos. Once is our sensei and his wife (and one year old who is often there but gets grumpy cos he can't go join in suburi though is having fun with his first shinai) and another couple who both recently got their shodans together at the same time. Neither couple give any quarter during jigeiko. Neither get shirty with each other from anything that happens out on the floor. The shodan couple also do/teach karate together.

However, to play devil's advocate to my own argument, I know some couples where one or both have full on hobbies that are differing really work because both people get their space and time to run off and do their own thing. I think if you're reasonable people and don't need to be in each others' faces 24/7 and support and respect the respective hobby then there's no reason it should be a problem.

My housemate, though just a friend, is interested in and supports my kendo/jodo/iaido even though she would never take it up in a pink fit. Just not her thing. But having that support and someone I can blabber on about waza and kihon and tanteku who at least pretends to semi-understands (and actually asks for an explanation when she doesn't) makes a huge difference. Oh, and her willingness to pick me up late on a Friday night after training is also great!