Learn to Be Nice to Your Wife, or Pay the Price

**Charles Lockhar** · 22nd July 2008, 04:07 AM

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn...T2007112501768

Having watched my wife's dad operate in earlier times, I can understand the wifely response. If I understand correctly, there's actually a term for the stress a wife feels from having her husband home all the time...

-Charles

**Masahiro** · 22nd July 2008, 04:35 AM

prenuptial agreement!

**bravo22** · 22nd July 2008, 04:59 AM

There's no need for divorce, a wife can get 100% of a man's paycheque through correct application of nagging.

If that dosn't work, there's always the rolling pin.

**imouto** · 22nd July 2008, 12:51 PM

Bah! You cynics.

It's nice to see men willing enough to work at their relationships.

**JoDuncan** · 22nd July 2008, 04:43 PM

I hate this equality stuff... clean, cook and service.

That is all.

**xvikingx** · 22nd July 2008, 04:50 PM

Originally Posted by JoDuncan

I hate this equality stuff... clean, cook and service.

What does your woman do then?

**JoDuncan** · 22nd July 2008, 06:08 PM

She locks me in the cupboard and feeds me insects.

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Are there state pensions in Japan or are they all through companies?

**xvikingx** · 22nd July 2008, 06:14 PM

Originally Posted by JoDuncan

Are there state pensions in Japan or are they all through companies?

Whoa. Out of left field....
Yes but I've got a feeling it won't be around by the time I'm eligable. If I'm still here that is...

**JoDuncan** · 22nd July 2008, 06:48 PM

Isn't that the subject matter?
(Before my perversion

)

Was curious tis all, I don't even know the law in the UK pertaining to private pensions and divorcees... not my chosen subject on mastermind.
Japanese law heavily influenced by the US? Is compensation culture finding its way into Japan?
I heard that, say for instance, a guy falls off a cliff in Japan. His family could then sue the land owner for not putting up a fence. Any truth to this?

**xvikingx** · 23rd July 2008, 09:18 AM

Originally Posted by JoDuncan

Isn't that the subject matter?

Could be. I'm just in it for the misogyny!

Originally Posted by JoDuncan

Japanese law heavily influenced by the US? Is compensation culture finding its way into Japan?
I heard that, say for instance, a guy falls off a cliff in Japan. His family could then sue the land owner for not putting up a fence. Any truth to this?

Dude there is smoke coming out of my ears. My knowledge of the law is limited to my run ins. However I would venture to guess that "compensation culture" was here long before the Yankees arrived.
As for the cliff bit I think you are correct. I don't know about you but it makes sense to me. It's your property and you're responsible for the safety of those on it. Even the terminally stupid.
I don't know if a fence is necessary though. I think a "Cliff ahead Don't fall off it" sign would suffice.

**xvikingx** · 23rd July 2008, 12:34 PM

Originally Posted by tango

if i'm not mistaken, a spouse can get entitlement to 50% of her (or HIS) spouse's 401k (company-sponsored retirement savings)... I don't know about pensions, though, but my guess is: yeah, probably.

You are correct about 401k and the same goes for social security.

**JoDuncan** · 23rd July 2008, 04:26 PM

Originally Posted by xvikingx

Could be. I'm just in it for the misogyny!

Aren't we all?

I don't know if a fence is necessary though. I think a "Cliff ahead Don't fall off it" sign would suffice.

And I assume said sign would have to be suitable cute with a lovely sweet image of a boy falling to his doom.

Now that I think about it, the compensation thing probably goes way back.
"You have wronged me sir, I challenge you!"
*takes glove off and slaps dude*
"Would sir accept a fiver instead?"
"Indeed I would sir."

And somehow from that evolved Judge Judy....

**Matlock** · 25th September 2008, 02:48 PM

Originally Posted by tango

should point out, i'm talking about u.s. law...

dangit... wish ignatz was around to clarify!

Tango-san,

You should know that almost nothing is protected in a divorce. Its like a vasectomy, there is no such thing as a partial cut, it's either no cut or it's your marbles.

It depends on which state you live in. In some states, the ex-spouse's interest ends with the divorce, so benefits accrued during those years would normally go to you. In other states, the ex-spouse is entitled to more. Umm... yea, the D word is a scary thing indeed. Keep your nose clean by playing more kendo!! Which reminds me....Let's hit the dojo!!!

Cheers

**Miaspyher** · 16th November 2008, 09:35 PM

Tango-san,

Divorce is a big step. How long have you been married? Many people make the mistake of divorcing when they really haven't given themselves long enough to get used to life as a couple. I think it takes 5-8 years to get through all the kinks. Is she willing to reconcile? Does she want the divorce? Will you try counseling? Those are all important, and if she is willing to reconcile and counseling is an option then its in your best interest to work on this and stay married. Kendo is all about honor and discipline. There is no honor in divorce.

The money in the divorce will end up being the least of your worries. You'll regret this divorce in the years to come.

-Mia

**Inner_Silence** · 16th November 2008, 09:46 PM

Originally Posted by Miaspyher

There is no honor in divorce.

The money in the divorce will end up being the least of your worries. You'll regret this divorce in the years to come.

-Mia

yeah, especially when she gets to own the guy's house, car, life savings and whats left of his soul...