I Hate My Life

[Jacynth]

The Last few years have been nothing but trouble. Heres the deal, I've just meet a friend who I enjoy hanging around with and well he happens to be Buddhist. Now he has another friend which I don’t like who happens to be Muslim. For the Sake of it I decided to put up with him and just enjoy hanging around. Once my parents heard of my friend they straight away asked to become much closer with the Muslim which I don’t like. I told them I don’t like him and I’m best friends with the other guy. They put their foot down and began forcing me to “Like” the Muslim. Then they started to accuse me that I was Buddhist because I hang about with the other guy. They started making up things like all the martial arts I was practicing were an excuse to practice my Buddhism.

And here comes the trouble. They’ve been treating me like crap for ages now. They accuse me of anything I do and don’t let me do anything related with Buddhism such as Meditation. They never talk to me, refuse anything I ask for, rip up everything In my room, Hit me like their smiting an enemy and then they look at my face and say something like “ It’s like we’ve been torturing him or something”. I can’t take that crap anymore, I feel like killing my self and I’m about to consider it. When I come home from school feeling depressed and come with bad marks they don’t even give a dam if I’m depressed or what’s going on. They just want me to be a nice perfect little Muslim boy that shows a good example for their kind.

If this is the wrong place to post this Kind of stuff then I apologize but I had to get it off my chest and hear other people’s views on my situation. Your comments will be much appreciated.

[Light Samurai]

My Dad's the same way. Be christian for effin die. Like that. My whole family. I'm a Omoto-sect buddhist, and some Rinzai stuff as well.
Peace and Love.

[Jacynth]

Yea, they think they are so peaceful and better than everybody else and then they force their children to follow...What kind of justice is that?

[Light Samurai]

Freedom of religion in America or any other countrie with a similar ammendment is going down the hole... Just because I talk to Wiccan's does not make me Wicca. The're assuming to much. It's not like you are doing those things. Not to much i can say to help is to tell them your not, and that this Buddhist guy is much nicer, and more religious, in a good way, then the muslim guy. Each religion has a set of similair moral codes.
Peace and Love.

[Jacynth]

Not to much i can say to help is to tell them your not, and that this Buddhist guy is much nicer, and more religious, in a good way, then the muslim guy. Each religion has a set of similair moral codes.
Peace and Love.

Yea, I've already tried that...I've already tried everything. They don't want to know, they don't even want to listen.
Dam I can't wait till I'm older and my old parents ask me for help, then I'll remind them what they done to me and leave them to live the rest of their miserable lives alone.

[Light Samurai]

My dad is sick. I 'd do the same thing, but deep down inside, the right Buddhist thing to do is help him, comfort him by reading out of *his* holy book, and give him support, even if I don't agree with his choices. If they dn't want to listen. I'm sure ther enot practicing good Muslim faith. I know nothing about Islam, but, there must be some kind of religious tolerance, but I may be wrong.
Peace/Shanti.

[Mibu-Ro[Okita]]

I feel your pain, I really do. I am from Utah, so that makes me a . . . you guessed it, a mormon. Now every faith has these kind of problems, and sometimes they do get really bad, even I have had a knife to my chest, but at the last second you realize this is probably the hardest part of life and it can only get better from here. I don't really understand, nor can I relate to the whole not being allowed to hang out with a friend from another religion, but I think that your parents are completely out of line in this area, that is like . . . what is that word, like racism, but for religion, well anyway. Have they ever met your friend? If not ask them if they would at least meet them? If that doesn't work then just, I don't know, if you are old enough, I think that it is time to move out. I am 18, which means since I am a mormon, I will be going on my mission soon, untill that time I must live by my parents rules because I still need them for support, but your parents aren't even giving you that. I can see how tight of a position you are in, and in closing I would just like to let you know that these are the hardest times of life and it will only get better, don't give in to depression, conquer it, find something meaningful in life and strive for perfection. I apologize for the "preaching" there. Good luck!

Okita

[Commander]

Hey, im really sorry to hear whats going on in your family.

Your parents should respect you wishes, they can give you guidance and advice but at the end of the day, its your life.

I hope you manage to sort things out with them

Sarah

[LNGUYEN]

You are in very tough time right now. Being growing up, experience new things, chosing your friend, school, don't get enough attention from parents, and many things else. Your Parents told you to do many things which you don't understand, accused you something which you don't do. I understand since I was your age before. The important things is you have to get pass this time and find out what is really important wating for you outthere. You have to be strong, then you will find things are easier. Life is wonderful and the reward for the brave and strong are wonderful too. If you can get pass this crisis, you will never success.

You like one friend over the other and can't chose who to hang out with? Believe me, this is not the end of the World. Thing is going more difficult than this.

Be brave and strong my friend.

[Andou]

Life is wonderful and the reward for the brave and strong are wonderful too.

This is one of the most inspirational and yet true things I have ever read.

Jacynth, life will always be full of trouble and terrible ordeals. You cannot let something like this spur you to do something drastic. I cannot stress this enough. Being strong and getting through this will show much more character. You owe it to yourself to show your parents who is right in the end. I'm positive that all of us here sympathize with your struggle. Remember, we will all be here. You belong to a worldwide community and we will do what we can to help you. Things will sort out and it'll get better.

[Taisaburo]

I understand what your saying, but that is horrible excuse to commit suicide. Besides, you have my sincerist regards. I hope things get better for you.

[Hisham]

You might wana try to know why your parents are feeling that way, your 15 years old but you seem to be a smart teen, maybe there way of protecting you goes against your own identity search but don't overdramatise your situation to the point of acting on such stupid idea as killing yourself, have you tried explaining what meditation was about? IMHO they are hitting you because they don't know what to do and are afraid to lose you, you are the one that knows what's your parents background is if not try to learn about it, i again advise you to go according to it, not easy for a teenager i know, "3amiluhum billati hya a7san".

I don't know if you heard about this but in the days of Mohamed (pbuh) after a battle a muslim man was dying, his soul "hanging"(might be in a coma), the mustapha (chosen one in arabic) came to him and told the people to bring the mother who was pagan and in bad terms with her son from the day he became muslim , he asked her to forgive her deadly wounded child, and it was only when she did that the soul finally got out of his body, that tells you about importance of parents, especially mothers. You know that for muslims there's God ,the parents then the prophets and messengers.
However your parents maybe, be good to them.

I guess we all at some point in our teen years "hated" our parents with or without reason but just do good by them, some have liberal parents and some don't but in any case they are your parents, in a way when you're at home your dad and mom are your sensei, try not to go too much against there wish at least untill you get to fly with your own wings even then i hope that you'll do the right thing, everything has an end .You live in Lebanon a country which was a theater of a lot of real life drama not so long ago, and i think that the people there are very sensitive about religion because of that, maybe that's why they reacting like that.
i myself had some tough years as a teenager with my parents eventhough they are liberals in there way of thinking, got through it. Tell yourself that parenting isn't an easy task and that parents aren't perfect.
To tell you the truth to the "teenager me",what i wrote now would make me a sell out, but much will change when you start experiencing life by yourself, when that invisible parental shelter disapears *sigh
I guess i already said too much, be more diplomatic and don't push there "buttons" although it's gonna be hard for you with all those body changes (hormone explosions)
Hope that you'll have less conflicts with your parents, one of the ways is to learn what they are about.
Aight gotta go hit the sack, got work tomorow morning.
Salam and good luck

[Frame]

life's a bitch, kill yourself or get over it.

[Infinity]

life's a bitch, kill yourself or get over it.

interesting advice...

i was raised a catholic and now i am anti-religion. it is not that i dont have any beliefs, values or moral standards, i do. i just dont feel the compulsion to share what i believe in with everyone and anyone i speak to. i also dont think i need any kind of religion to hold true to those values.

you are 15 and your parents wont listen to you for quite a while. get used to it.

dont kill yourself. its selfish and usually pointless in that it solves nothing.

do what you are told. develop your own values and beliefs until you are old enough to live your own life.
try and enjoy being a child. you havent got much time left.

[Masahiro]

hang in there kid. The worst is now, and if you don't stick around to find out how it's going to be better. You will regret it! hang in there. ..if you need someone to e-mail to. Hit me up, i have my e-mail in my profile! As long as you hold a shinai in your hand, you are a friend of mine! don't give up!